Expectations to exceed.Being "good" wasn't simply about being liked; it was about safety, belonging, achievement, protection and creating opportunities that previous generations had been denied.It was a coping mechanism that developed over time out of vigilance, responsibility and love for my family.And so out of fear, for a long time, I felt like I didn't know who I really was because I was always putting others first.I grew up in a family where I was the family's therapist It was about learning that caring for others and caring for myself didn't have to be mutually exclusive.For me, the goal was never becoming someone who stopped caring about other people.I still care deeply