But she now viscerally understands she needs to advocate for the sandwich generation who care for those elders.Recently Gohar's parents became critically unwell You pay taxes and when you're old, you're going to be looked after," she says."I think there is a huge realisation within the sandwich generation that that social contract has been broken."Gohar's father died waiting for care, and her mother died two months later.Now grieving for her parents, the experience has totally changed how Gohar does her work.I meet a lot of Gohars, Janelles and Nicoles because I too am a member of the sandwich generation