Even to members of his own family, Sajid Akram was an unusually secretive man.To this day, his Australian brother-in-law, Michael, says he does not know how Akram met his sister Venera before they married She didn't have much confidence."Their marriage gave Akram a pathway to permanent residency in Australia but caused tension on both sides of the family.Venera's brother Michael says the couple eloped, marrying in secret in a civil ceremony in Sydney, which was hurtful to her father in particular.Hussain says in India, "some of the neighbours and some of the police officers confirmed to me that there was a resentment in the family about [Akram] being married to a Christian woman."Dr Aboud says Akram's decision to marry a Christian woman suggests he did not arrive in Australia with a fundamentalist Islamic mindset."It sounds to me if he did develop any extreme, radicalised belief system, that happened later," he says.While on the surface Akram was blending into Australian society, there were signs his new life was not working out as he might have hoped.Michael says when he first met Akram, "he told me he worked in computers — but in all the time I knew him he never did"